如何让自己显得更易于接近(视频)
作者：跳跳虎
来源：videojug
2010-06-09 15:03
Here is VideoJug's guide to looking more approachable. Judi James, our body language expert and author of 'Body talk At Home', shows you how to send out the right signals so you come across as approachable and as someone everyone wants to meet.
如何让自己看上去易于接触？Videojug给你支几招。朱迪詹姆斯，《Body Talk At Home》一书的作者，Videojug的肢体语言专家顾问，向你介绍如何向他人发出正确的信号，让你显得平易近人，让他人都愿与你交往。
Step 1: Body barriers
These signal to people to leave you alone and make you seem extremely unapproachable. Therefore, avoid folded arms or gestures such as holding a drink close to your chin as it implies to the other person you'd rather be left alone.
These signal to people to leave you alone and make you seem extremely unapproachable. Therefore, avoid folded arms or gestures such as holding a drink close to your chin as it implies to the other person you'd rather be left alone.
1.避免使用阻挡性肢体语言
阻挡性的肢体语言会向对方发出这样一个信号：走开，我喜欢独处。这会使你显得非常的难以接近。因此，不要合拢手臂，也不要手拿酒杯，贴近下巴。因为这些行为举止都会向他人暗示，你喜欢作独行侠。
阻挡性的肢体语言会向对方发出这样一个信号：走开，我喜欢独处。这会使你显得非常的难以接近。因此，不要合拢手臂，也不要手拿酒杯，贴近下巴。因为这些行为举止都会向他人暗示，你喜欢作独行侠。
Step 2: Use your eyes
Your eyes can signal approachability. Don't stare or just look at the floor, but scan the room with your eyes as this shows that you are open to approach.
Your eyes can signal approachability. Don't stare or just look at the floor, but scan the room with your eyes as this shows that you are open to approach.
2.眼睛要动
你的眼睛能告诉别人你是不是一个易于接近的人。不要盯着对方看，也不要一直观赏地板，而要用眼睛环顾这个房间，因为这样会显得你已敞开心扉，愿与他人交往。
你的眼睛能告诉别人你是不是一个易于接近的人。不要盯着对方看，也不要一直观赏地板，而要用眼睛环顾这个房间，因为这样会显得你已敞开心扉，愿与他人交往。
Step 3: Smile with your eyes
Soften your eye expression and don't be blank or vacant, as smiling with your eyes really does show that you are friendly.
Soften your eye expression and don't be blank or vacant, as smiling with your eyes really does show that you are friendly.
3.眼带微笑
眼光放得柔和一点，并且眼睛也需带点表情，因为眼带微笑确实能够表示你很友好。
眼光放得柔和一点，并且眼睛也需带点表情，因为眼带微笑确实能够表示你很友好。
Step 4: Smiling with the mouth
This is an evolutionary aspect, an animal signal of introduction. A nice, genuine smile shows again that you mean to be friendly.
This is an evolutionary aspect, an animal signal of introduction. A nice, genuine smile shows again that you mean to be friendly.
4.嘴角露出一丝微笑
说话时，嘴角挂上一丝微笑是人类进化的结果。动物用此表情来表达“介绍”之意。甜美、真切的笑容亦能展现你友好的初衷。
说话时，嘴角挂上一丝微笑是人类进化的结果。动物用此表情来表达“介绍”之意。甜美、真切的笑容亦能展现你友好的初衷。
Step 5: Intentional gestures
These make communication easier. When shaking hands, put your hand out at a distance and not at the last minute as this encourages more of a response. When you want to interrupt, raising your hand slightly will signal to people that you want to speak.
These make communication easier. When shaking hands, put your hand out at a distance and not at the last minute as this encourages more of a response. When you want to interrupt, raising your hand slightly will signal to people that you want to speak.
5.使用一些通用的手势
这些肢体语言使人们之间的沟通更简单了。和别人握手时，手要伸出去一定的距离。不要等到最后一刻才伸出手来，因为这里涉及到就不仅仅是反应的问题了。当你要打断对方时，稍稍抬抬手，对方就知道你要讲话了。
这些肢体语言使人们之间的沟通更简单了。和别人握手时，手要伸出去一定的距离。不要等到最后一刻才伸出手来，因为这里涉及到就不仅仅是反应的问题了。当你要打断对方时，稍稍抬抬手，对方就知道你要讲话了。
Step 6: Self-comfort gestures
You do these when feeling anxious or under pressure, and it makes it seem as if you don't want to speak to people. Also beware of metronomic gestures such as foot tapping, as these signal to people that you are impatient and do not have time for them.
You do these when feeling anxious or under pressure, and it makes it seem as if you don't want to speak to people. Also beware of metronomic gestures such as foot tapping, as these signal to people that you are impatient and do not have time for them.
6.少做自我安慰性的动作
当你感到慌张或者感到压力时，你会做一些自我安慰性的动作。但这些动作会显得你好像不想和别人说话。还要注意，不要老做诸如顿足之类的带有节拍的小动作，因为这些动作会让人觉得你不耐烦，或者没时间和他们聊了。
当你感到慌张或者感到压力时，你会做一些自我安慰性的动作。但这些动作会显得你好像不想和别人说话。还要注意，不要老做诸如顿足之类的带有节拍的小动作，因为这些动作会让人觉得你不耐烦，或者没时间和他们聊了。
Notes：
subliminal：adj. 下意识的, 潜在意识的
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