WHAT HE SAYS: “I’m sorry you feel that way.” 

WHAT YOU HEAR: “You’re being a psycho.”

WHAT HE MEANS: “I just really want this argument to be over。” Women like to hash things out, talking issues through from start to finish. Guys, on the other hand, have much more of a flight instinct when it comes to confrontation – especially if he doesn’t fully understand why you’re so upset.

他说：“你那么想我感到很抱歉。”

你的理解：“你神经兮兮的。”

他的意思是：“我真的不想再吵了。”女人们喜欢刨根问底，将问题从头到尾说清楚。而另一方面，当发生冲突时，男人们本能地更想要逃避——尤其是当他不能充分地理解你为什么如此不悦的时候。

WHAT HE SAYS: “If you feel undervalued, ask for a raise.”

WHAT YOU HEAR: “Ugh, your problems are so simple – just fix it.”

WHAT HE MEANS: “Work’s bothering you? Let me help!” The truth is, men tend to see themselves as problem solvers in romantic relationships, and so what comes across as condescending1 can actually be your guy’s way of trying to help.

他说：“如果你觉得报酬低，可以要求加薪。”

你的理解：“哎，你的问题这么简单——只要解决就好了。”

他的意思是：“工作让你感到困扰吗？让我来帮助你！”事实上，在恋爱关系中，男人往往视他们自己为问题解决者，所以他看起来傲慢的表现实际上是你的男人在试图帮助你的方式。

WHAT HE SAYS: “Uh huh. Right. Yeah.”

WHAT YOU HEAR: “I couldn’t be less interested in what you’re saying.”

WHAT HE MEANS: “I want to hear your story, but it’s been 10 minutes and still no punch line.” Men don’t process information in the lengthy way that women do, so telling him a story in the drawn-out way you would to one of your girlfriends isn’t going to work. In short, cut to the chase and you’ll get more of a reaction.

他说：“嗯哼。对。是的。”

你的理解：“我对你所说的事情一点都不感兴趣。”

他的意思是：“我想听你的故事，但十分钟过去了你还是没说出个所以然来。”女人处理的信息冗长，而男人不是这样，所以像跟你的一个姐妹淘闲聊那样没完没了地讲给他听是行不通的。总之，说话直截了当，你会得到更多回应。

WHAT HE SAYS: “I didn’t tell you about the layoffs?”

WHAT YOU HEAR: “My job’s in jeopardy and I didn’t even bother to tell you.”

WHAT HE MEANS: “I didn’t want to worry you.” Most men don’t like to advertise their fears or what they might perceive as weaknesses – especially to the person they feel they need to protect (that’s you).

他说：“我没告诉你裁员吗？”

你的理解：“我的工作不保了，我甚至懒得告诉你。”

他的意思是：“我不想让你担心。”大多数男人不喜欢将他们的恐惧或他们认为是自己弱点的地方公之于众——特别是对他们觉得需要保护的人(就是你)。

WHAT HE SAYS: “It’s not a big deal.”

WHAT YOU HEAR: “How trivial.”

WHAT HE MEANS: “Let’s not dwell on it.” Men come from the school of suck-it-up, while women tend to need more reassurance if something is bothering them.

他说：“没什么大不了的。”

你的理解：“多大点事儿啊。”

他的意思是：“我们不要老想它了。”男人们是从“不抱怨”学校毕业的，而女人如果碰到什么事烦扰她们，往往需要更多安慰。

WHAT HE SAYS: “I need some space.”

WHAT YOU HEAR: “I don’t want to be with you.”

WHAT HE MEANS: “I care about you, but I also want some more independence.” In many romantic relationships, men use this blanket phrase instead of being more specific, as in: “I love the connection we have, but I miss spending time with my friends as well。” Use your judgment: If he’s still being affectionate and just feels a bit smothered3, give him some breathing room. However, if you’re only hanging out once a week to begin with, it might just be that he wants to end things – in which case, walk away.

他说：“我需要一些空间。”

你的理解：“我不想和你在一起了。”

他的意思是：“我关心你，但我也想要更多的独立空间。”在很多恋爱关系中，男人们都会说这种模棱两可的话，而不是说得更详尽，比如，“我喜欢我们之间的关系，但我也想念跟朋友们相处的时间。”运用你的判断力：如果他仍爱你，只是觉得有点透不过气，那就给他一些喘息的空间吧。但是，如果前提是你每周只和他出去玩一次，那么这可能是他想结束关系的讯号——如果是这种情况，还是离开他为好。




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