1. Pay a compliment

When you meet someone for the first time, pay that person a compliment when repeating their name, thus helping to anchor and embed it even deeper into your memory.

2. Ask lots of questions—good questions

How do you give your conversation partner the pleasure of a good conversation? Ask them questions—a lot of questions, and ones that call for more than vague one-word answers. This may lay the groundwork for a true friendship.

3. Make a game out of small talk

Say something like, ‘Tell me three things about your company, and I’ll guess what company it is.’ Or, ‘What’s that you’re drinking? Wait—let me guess.’.”

4. Try to make their day better

You can ask these questions: “On a scale of one to ten, how was your day?” Anyone can think of a number between one and ten. After they respond, ask them this: “Is there anything I can do to move you from a six to a seven?” You’d be surprised how happy this little gesture will make someone.

5. Play the sympathy card

“I once went to a party and met a very beautiful woman whose job was to help celebrities wear Harry Winston jewelry. I could tell that she was disappointed, but when I told her that her job sounded difficult to me she brightened and spoke for 30 straight minutes about sapphires,” Paul Ford wrote in his essay.
Paul Ford在随笔中写道:“我曾去参加一个聚会,遇到一个非常漂亮的女士,她的工作是帮名人戴海瑞·温斯顿(珠宝品牌)的首饰,我能看出来她很失望,但当我告诉她她的工作对我来说很难时她就高兴了,跟我连续聊了30分钟蓝宝石的话题。”

6. Seek their opinion

If you ask someone for advice or a favor and they oblige you, they will be psychologically primed to like you and help you again.

7. Pass the topic to someone else

Not everyone is going to be fascinated by that documentary you’re obsessed with. Let other people contribute to the conversation. If they change the topic when given the chance, let it go.

8. Repetition is key

Start by repeating the last thing the person said to sum up their point. That’s very effective because you’re saying, ‘I’ve been listening to you.’

9. Exit gracefully

If you’re at a party, excuse yourself to get a drink; if you’re at work, you can leave to get some coffee. You can also say, ‘It’s nice talking to you, but I have to talk to someone before they leave.”