Let Go of Dating Myths

根除关于约会的荒诞想法

Dating is exhausting and not worth my time. I'll never meet The One. All the good ones are taken.

约会是很累的，不值得我浪费时间。我永远碰不到合适的人。好的人都名花有主了。

These three statements are myths about dating that seriously require thought if they are going through your head. Dating isn't about negative thoughts; its about meeting as many interesting people as you can while having faith that you'll meet someone special.

这三个关于约会的想法是荒诞的，你要想想自己是否真的认真考虑过了。约会不是消极的，带着你终究会遇到对的人的想法，尽量和很多有趣的人约会。

Following this dating rule means you need to stop focusing on the person you are trying to meet, and focus on the spotlight instead on yourself.

照着这些约会准则做的话就意味着你不能再一味地想着要找某个特定的人，而要将关注的重点放在自己身上。

Face Your Dating Fears

直面自己的约会恐惧

Feeling anxious or upset about the prospects of meeting someone new usually translates into fear. If the thoughts of never meeting someone special, being upset that your last partner refused to commit, or convincing yourself you aren't worth dating are taking over your thought processes, it is time to face your dating fears. By not following this dating rule and ignoring the issues, your inability to risk losing your heart will stop you from meeting someone special.

为要和某个人开始约会而感到焦虑不安或难过的话就是恐惧。你总是认为自己碰不到特别的人的话，为了你所认为的合适对象的拒绝而难过，或者总是认为自己不值得约会，是时候将这些想法抛到一边去了。如果你不照着这些约会规则，并且无视这些的话，你永远不会随着自己的心找到那个特别的人。

Learn How To Flirt

学会调情

To attract new people, you'll need to show them you are interested - which means learning how to flirt. Virtually every single first encounter that leads to more starts with a smile, so this dating rule suggests smiling at everyone you encounter, without qualification. As well, understanding body language is a crucial part of meeting someone new and cannot be overlooked.

为了吸引新朋友，你要向他们展示你的风趣，这就是说你要学会调情。实际上，当两个单身的人相遇的时候，都是从微笑开始的，然后才有下一步的发展，所以我们建议你对你遇到的每个人都无条件展开微笑。另外，懂得身体语言在与别人发展新关系中也是很重要的，不容忽视的。

Accept All Dates

接受所有的约会

If you want to follow the rules of dating to meet someone new, its time to stop making snap decisions about the people who ask you out for a date. If someone asks you for coffee, it is your responsibility to accept it, barring any issues with safety of course. A date is just a date - not a marriage proposal. It'll only take an hour or two, and by accepting all dates you'll move closer to meeting someone special while perfecting your notions of what kind of person you'd like to have in your life.

如果你想按照这些约会规则去和新朋友约会的话，那么就是时候不要再对向你提出约会的人挑三拣四了。如果有人邀请你一起去喝杯咖啡的话，你就接受，当然是在安全的情况下。一次约会仅仅是一次约会罢了，不是求婚。只会占用你一到两个小时的时间，而且接受所有的约会的话，你就离遇到那个特别的人更近了，因为通过多次约会，你就更能清楚地明白什么人才是你想要共度一生的人。