Struggling to meet someone new? Following these simple yet insightful dating rules might be just be exactly what you need.

正在为和新朋友约会而发愁吗？照着以下这些见解非凡的简单法则去做的话，收获可能会超出你的期待。

Love Yourself First

首先要爱自己

Have you ever noticed that happy people get more attention? And if you are happy with yourself, it shows. So in order to attract more people into your life for dating purposes, focus on the things that make you happy. Try writing a large piece of paper full of ideas that you can use in a pinch, such as taking a hot bath, going for a bike ride or filling your home with plants. Then, pick three items from this list every day with conscious effort, knowing that the time you take tending to increasing your own personal joy will increase the pull others feel to learn more about who you are.

你是否注意到快乐的人更能吸引别人的注意呢？如果你自己感到快乐的话，就能收获更多的快乐。所以为了吸引更多人和你约会，努力让自己快乐起来吧。试着在一张纸上写满能让你快乐的主意，如泡个热水澡，骑车，将家里摆满盆栽植物。然后，每天在这张清单上挑三种方法，用心地去照着做，要知道你花在让自己快乐的时间越多，你就越能吸引别人想要更多的了解你。

Review Your Relationship Expectations

重新审视你对这段关系的期待

If you shake your head within seconds of meeting someone, rank them against a checklist in your head, or have stringent guidelines about who you will and won't meet, it is time to revamp your relationship expectations. When trying to meet someone new, it is imperative that you let go of your preconceived notions about who the perfect partner is.

如果你因为想到要和某人约会而摇头的话，将他们列入黑名单，或者如果对你想和谁不和谁约会有严格的标准划分的话，你就要开始重新修订你对约会的期望了。当你尝试去认识新朋友的时候，当务之急是你要抛开谁是你的最佳朋友的偏见。

Cut Ties To Your Ex

断绝与前女友的联系

Although this dating rule may be contentious for some readers, it is still an important step in the dating process. Just like a spring cleaning clears your space of clutter and cobwebs, removing an ex still present in your life after a breakup can free you to meet someone new. Of course there are circumstances where this may not be possible - such as if you have children together or work in the same office. But whenever possible, you need to remove your ex from your personal life, even if it is only temporary.

也许有些读者对这个建议有争议，但是这在约会中仍然是很重要的事情。就好像给你关系网中错综复杂的关系来个大扫除一样，与前任断绝关系的话可以给你重新开始的机会。当然了，也有些情况是不能这样做的，比如你们共同抚养小孩，或者在同一个办公室工作。但是只要有可能的话，你都要让前任从你的私生活中消失，哪怕是暂时性这样做也可以。