Is it hard to live as a bachelor your whole life?


获得10.7k好评的答案@Jay Bazzinotti:

Yes it is and sucks more and more as you get older.

Speaking as a single, 54 year old man who has never been married I can tell you that being alone as you get older is a scary and unpleasant proposition.

Now, it's relatively easy to find anyone to marry but it's not just as easy as grabbing the first available woman who will have you and tying the knot.

As you get older you become more aware and sure of your values and what you want.

If you are not careful you become inflexible and unable to negotiate those values.

I don't regret the good times I had or the adventures or the exciting romantic rendezvous but I think all those things pale in comparison to sharing consistent, cohesive moments with someone you build a future with and plan to grow old with, and do.

In addition, the silence of being alone is deafening.

You can fill your hours with activities, reading, volunteering and more but coming home to an empty house and wondering who will find you if you die alone in the middle of the night, and who will even care, is one of the most pathetic fears of an aging bachelor's life.

I still live in hope that somewhere out there is the love of my life, waiting to be discovered somehow, but it's with increasing fear and doubt that that hope is threatened.


获得1.2k好评的答案@Anirudh Anupama:

Nope. I have an uncle who is 65 and has been divorced and single since past 35 years.

He enjoys his life to the full extent. He has been an X- Ray technician in a cancer hospital for whole of his life and is working after retirement too.

He earns decent amount to fund his regular visits to near by pilgrimage places.

I have asked him several times and discussed about his life as a single.

He has told me one thing which has motivated me the most, "If you can enjoy your own company, then you need no one else to entertain you all the time."


获得317好评的答案@Steven Clarke:

No. I'm 56 and have never been married. I have no children.  

I've had my ups and downs, but so have my married friends.

Being married doesn't guarantee happiness. Being single doesn't condemn one to misery. 

There are many paths through life, all are complicated and most have their share of joy and misery.

Staring longingly at an idealized picture of someone else's path will only result in missing out on the joy and richness of experience on your own path.