概述：

这在职业女性中是很常见的原因。她们觉得要让人人感到她们无所不能，而且要把样样事情都做得完美无缺。。。

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Eliot

For many people, the root of their stress is anger, and the trick is to find out where the anger is coming from. "Does the anger come from a feeling that everything must be perfect?" Eliot asks. "That's very common in professional women. They feel they have to be all things to all people and do it all perfectly. They think, 'I should, I must, I have to.' Good enough is never good enough. Perfectionists cannot delegate. They get angry that they have to carry it all, and they blow their tops. Then they feel guilty and they start the whole cycle over again." "Others are angry because they have no compass in life. And they give the same emphasis to a traffic jam that they give a family argument," he says.
对许多人来说，压力的根源是愤怒，而对付愤怒的诀窍是找出怒从何来。埃利奥特问道：“这种愤怒是否来自这么一种感觉：希望一切事物都必须完美无缺？” “这在职业女性中是很常见的原因。她们觉得要让人人感到她们无所不能，而且要把样样事情都做得完美无缺。她们认为，‘我应该这样，我必须这样，我不得不这样。’追求完美永无止境。完美主义者事必躬亲。他们生气是因为他们不得不把什么事情都扛在自己肩上，还为之发脾气。随后他们就感到内疚，接着他们就再把整个过程重复一遍。” “还有的人生气是因为他们的生活没有方向。他们把交通阻塞看得和家庭纠纷一样重，”他说。