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Mars

Martian

Mr. Fix-it hat


And for him to feel good about himself, he must achieve these goals alone, by himself. To offer a man unsolicited advice is to presume that he doesn't know what to do or that he can't do it on his own. Men are very touchy about this, because the issue of competence is so very important to them. However, if the man truly does need help, then it's a sign of wisdom to get it. In this case, he'll find someone he respects and then talk about his problem. Talking about a problem on Mars is an invitation for advice. Another Martian feels honored by the opportunity. Automatically, he puts on his Mr. Fix-it hat, listens for a few beats, and then offers some advice. This Martian custom is one of the reasons men instinctively offer solutions when a woman talks about her feelings or about her problems.
而男人要想自我感觉不错，就必须是他自己独立达到这些目标才行。 在男人看来，不请自来的建议就是认为他们不知道该做什么或是不能凭个人的力量获取胜利。他们对此很恼火，因为个人能力对于他们非常重要。然而，如果男人确定需要帮助，取得帮助也是明智之举。在这种情况下，他会和一位自己敬重的人谈论自己的困难。男人之间谈论困难就是请求他人提供意见。被请求的人因此会颇感荣幸，并顺其自然地抒发感想，听对方诉说，然后提出宝贵的建议。男人的这种习惯在一定程度上导致了他们在女人谈论自己的情感和困惑时，本能地提供解决方案。