怎么培养自信？通过夸奖就可以吗？Tal博士说，盲目的夸奖是不正确滴……



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How about this? Self-esteem. How do you increase self-esteem? If I have to do a poll here, most people guaranteed would say praise people. Praise people, praise children, it will enhance your self-esteem. Right, partially right. And if it's taken as the whole truth, and nothing but the truth, it's detrimental. Because there is a lot of research that shows when we praise people indiscriminately, we are actually in the long run potentially hurting them more than we are helping them. Whether it's their wellbeing as well as their success. But the self-esteem movement mostly says praise people, praise children all the time.
接下来谈谈自信，如何培养自信？如果我在这里做一项民意调查，保证大多数人，会说通过赞美来提升。赞美别人，赞美孩子，这将增强你的自信。说对了一部分。但如果把这当作全部的真理，则是有害的。因为有很多研究显示，当我们不加区别地赞扬别人，我们实际上是在长期地，默默地伤害他们，而非帮助他们，无论是对他们的幸福感，还是成功。但关于提升自信却有个常见的说法，就是要经常赞美别人和孩子。