背景知识介绍:
人们最常问的关于自身的问题是什么?
Tal博士认为,人们常问的是“我的缺点是什么,我哪方面需要改进?”而几乎不问“我的优势是什么,我具备哪些美德?”。
确实,关于自己缺点的问题很重要,但是,如果我们问自己唯一的问题都是关于自身缺点的,那我们看到的就只能是自身的缺点和不足。而一个只能看到缺点,不欣赏自身优势和热情的人,如何能自我尊重,自信以及快乐?
因此,Tal博士认为,欣赏好的事物非常重要,要学会“Appreciate”.




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It is important to appreciate what is good, I mean, look at the word "appreciate". Two meanings. First meaning, to say thank you for something, not to take it for granted, and that's a nice thing to do. We shouldn't take for granted, our virtues, our successes. We shouldn't take for granted others. That's a nice thing to do. But "appreciate" has a second meaning, which is to grow. Money appreciates in the bank, the economy hopefully appreciates. When we appreciate the good, the good appreciates, the good grows. Unfortunately, the other side of the same coin applies as well. When we don't appreciate the good, when we take it for granted, the good depreciates.
欣赏好的事物非常重要。看看“appreciate”这个词,有两层意思。其一就是对某事物心存感激,不认为某事理所当然。而这样做很好。我们不应该把美德、成功看成理所当然的。对待别人的美德和成功同样如此。心存感激是好的。但“appreciate”还有另一个意思就是增值。钱在银行里升值,经济会增长。当我们对好的东西心存感激,好的东西便会增值。不幸的是,反之亦然。当我们不感激好的东西时,把它看成理所当然的事情的话,那么,好的东西就会贬值。