虎妈，美国耶鲁大学的华裔教授，原名蔡美儿。她对两个女儿严厉的教导方式让不少美国家长感到惊讶……

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Amy Chua
Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother
Alright. Well, what makes a good parent? You probably ask 100 people; you might get 100 different answers. But one mother's opinion has really caused a fire storm of controversy. And in Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, Amy Chua compares a stricter Chinese style of parenting with really a warmer, more laid-back approach that maybe some westerners are more familiar with. So first and foremost, thank you so much for being here. What a fascinating adventure you've been on for the last month or so with this book tour. It's been amazing. Your premise is interesting. You really want to start this off by saying I'm improving that Chinese parenting is better than western parenting. Right. And I tried to raise my two daughters the same way that my own strict Chinese immigrant parents raised me because I adore my parents. I feel like I owe everything to them. And the book is supposed to be funny because I started off confidently my first daughter was an easy kid. You know what, I thought what's wrong with everybody. But then my second daughter came along and she is a real fireball. And the book is in some way about all our showdowns all the way through. And in the end, she did rebel and I did have to pull back, although not entirely, not at all. Not entirely, exactly. So what did you learn through this entire process? What was like that enlightening moment for you to kinda go through this? Did you prove your premise? Not necessarily. Yeah, I did prove my premise exactly but I would do it all again with some minor adjustments. I think the big lesson for me is I still think I was right to restrict my kid's choices when they were very young in many ways. You know, I think if you give a five-year-old or eight-year-old, what is your choice today? It's gonna be video games or candy. Right. So I did. You know, I'm proud that I had my kids playing musical instruments, that the school work came first. I did let them hang out at other people's houses for hours with a traditional family, but I think I learned that as their kids get older, so my daughter at nearly 13, I had to give her more space and more choice. I had to defer more to what she wanted again as they got older. So we are still under negotiations. Right, because right now they are 18 and 15. So you are still going through this process if you will. Some of the interesting points you talked about though is, you are talking about giving their choices, but you did not necessarily allow them to do that. You said you will play the piano, you will get straight As. And there are a lot of demands on that side of it. Looking back, do you have any regrets to that tough approach to parenting early on? Not really. Maybe it's partly autobiographical, but I'm not saying it's for everybody. But I really believe that high expectations for your children coupled with love, I mean that comes first, unconditional love that you can convey that you love them. I think that is the greatest gift anyone's ever given me, and I think that builds confidence. And I think it puts kids in a great place to take on the world, you know. So I think my two daughters are, despite what you read about, they are happy. They have lots of friends. And they are big personalities. You know, they are, I mean they are really strong girls. Right. So looking back on it, two young beautiful daughters that you have and successful stories with them as well. I wish we could talk about this for a half hour. Thank you so much Amy. Appreciate it. Again the book is called Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother. And we'll be right back after a very short break. Thank you. Thank you so much. Thank you.