每个人都有属于自己的记忆，不论美好或悲伤，那些已经逝去的时光都永远不再回来，随着岁月的流逝，成为颗颗璀璨的钻石在生命里熠熠生辉。
Recently when I was driving, I had a deep and sudden sense of Ed and the way it felt to have him next to me in the car. My body softened as it used to when we were together seven years ago, living a shared life. I wasn't remembering his face or the way be walked; the careful details I had stored had nothing to do with this moment in the car. Looking in the rearview mirror, I recognized in my own face the same look I once saw on my mother's face in the nursing home. I had asked her a question about my father, and she became confused about his identity. Yet, as she sat there, dressed in a shapeless polyester outfit, she breifly appeared young and radiant, her face filled with love and her eyes became misty. Her brain couldn't label the man correctly, but that was not important. It was clear to me that her husband was vivid in her heart, a memory even Alzheimer's could not crush. I believe there is a difference between memory and remembering. Remembering has to do with turning the oven off before leaving the house, but memory is nurtured by emotion. It springs from a deeper well, safe from dementia and the passage of time.
最近，我在开车的时候，突然有种很强烈的感觉，觉得埃德好像就坐在我身边。我的身体很放松，这跟7年前我们共同生活时的感觉一模一样。在那一刻，我并没有想起他的脸或者他走路的样子，我记得的所有充满挂念的细节都跟此刻车里发生的情景无关。透过车里的后视镜，我看到自己的表情和在疗养院里看到过的母亲脸上那表情是一样的。当时，我问了她关于父亲的一个问题，她一脸迷惑，弄不清他是家中何人。然而，她坐在那里，穿着松垮的涤纶外套，有一瞬间她看起来年轻而富有光彩，脸上充满了爱意，眼神变得朦胧而伤感。她的脑子无法辨认这个男人，但这并不重要。我清楚地指导，她丈夫活在她心中，这是一种即便是老年痴呆症也无法摧毁的记忆。 我相信，“记忆”和“记得”两只之间是有区别的。“记得”是离家之前记得关掉烤箱，但“记忆”则是因感情而催生。它来自于更深处，而且不会因为老年痴呆症或者时间的流逝而消退。