永远不要抱怨自己的一天有多糟糕，至少你还活着，还拥有生活的权利……

Rebecca Gallois, 17 - an only child - died of head injuries after Simon Liddle lost control of his Citroen Saxo at 50mph and flipped it.
17岁的Rebecca Gallois是家里的独身女，但是她却在一场车祸中因头部伤势严重而身亡。当时她坐在Simon Liddle驾驶的雪铁龙Saxo中，汽车以每小时50英里（约每小时80公里）的速度飞驰，Liddle不慎失控而导致翻车。

Liddle, 20 - driving the car for the first time after passing his test the month before - escaped with minor injuries. Front-seat passenger Michael Nixon suffered a broken neck.
20岁的Liddle只受了点小伤，侥幸逃生。这是他上个月通过驾驶考试后第一次开车上路。坐在副驾座的Michael Nixon则被撞断了脖颈。

Rebecca's parents Carol and David told Newcastle Crown Court they will forgive Liddle if he:
Rebecca的父母告诉纽卡斯尔皇家刑事法庭，他们愿意原谅Liddle，只要他履行三件事：

• One, to make his life meaningful, do something great with your hands, head or heart. Never complain about a bad day, a bad day is considerably better than no days our daughter will ever have again.
一、用自己的双手、头脑或心灵去创造伟大，让生活充满意义。不要抱怨自己的一天多么糟糕，再糟糕也比永远不再拥有的人强得多。

• Two, make a life-long commitment to help kids in Rebecca's memory. Soccer coach, scout leading, any volunteer mentoring that he would be good at. Do it willingly, for Rebecca.
二、为了怀念Rebecca，承诺一生帮助儿童。从事足球教练、童子军领队、或者其他任何擅长的志愿服务。为了Rebecca而心甘情愿地付出。

• Three, he must man up and tell the truth about what happened. We acknowledge there will be consequences and would ask the court to be lenient but accept that he is liable for Rebecca's death.
三、他必须像个男子汉那样说出事情的真相。他会受到惩罚，但我们会请求法院给予宽恕，不过是在他承认对Rebecca的死有责的前提下。

失去女儿而伤心欲绝的父母是经过了艰难的心理斗争才得以心平气和地对待同罪魁祸首（took 'great steps' to be at peace with him and what he had done），而他们最终并没有选择将他打入深渊，而是给了他重生的机会，他们对于forgiveness的理解也发人深思：

'If he does these things we will forgive him, just as he must forgive himself.'
“如果他能履行这些，我们便原谅他，就像他必须原谅自己那样。”

'Forgiveness does not mean to forget but rather embrace the challenge of living wholesomely for them both.'
“原谅并不代表忘却，而是拥抱生活带来的挑战，为了自己也为了逝去的人，好好活下去。”