How To Handle The Long-Distance Talk
The best practice is to simply be honest and straightforward. You need to take a hard look at your relationship, your needs, where the relationship is going, and have a big talk. Be honest. There are emotions which are hard to put aside to think what is best. Sure, you will miss each other if it doesn't work, but you will hate each other if one winds up cheating.
What Real Women Say: " I think I do remember my awkward, insecure, teen self asking him if he would stay with me if I went away in our first conversation about my college choice," says Elyse, 31. " I also remember that, at the time, his answer was not immediate, or definitive. I know I was hurt by that at the time, but I think, looking back it was fairly mature of him not to lie to me. He had to think about it and decide whether or not he was willing to make that commitment. Several months later, we were both all in. We talked about it and expressed to each other that we were both willing to do whatever it took to make it work. "
What To Do To Make Long-Distance Manageable
"When attempting a long-distance relationship, the most important thing is to try to make the relationship as 'normal' as possible," says Bennett. "This means trying to share special moments, like holidays, birthdays, and the general daily joys and sorrows that couples who are together in person take for granted. Fortunately, technology makes sharing life moments easier than ever. "
What Real Women Say: "My husband and I were actually long distance all through college and part of law school," says Julianna, 30. "There is no gadget that can help sustain a healthy, long-distance relationship other than constant communication, but the one thing that helped us specifically was that we scheduled time each week to have a 'date' on the phone, or Facetime. We usually ate dinner or lunch at the same time. "