Whether you've chosen the single life or are between relationships, you can build a terrific solo life. And, if you're looking to attract true love, turns out that having a terrific single life is just the thing to do.
不管你是有意选择单身，或者只是暂时“名花无主”，你都可以有一个人的精彩生活。如果你正在寻觅真爱，就更需要学会如何一个人过的好了。

1. Community

What it means: Building a community means having people who are there for you, people who care about you and your life.

Why it matters: Many singles feel lonely and disconnected, which affects their quality of life. They act as if the only way to get their emotional needs met is through a partner. Not true. Members of your community can meet many of your needs, and the more your needs get met, the less needy and the more attractive you become -- and the less you need a partner.

What you can do: Build community by volunteering or by joining clubs around subjects that interest you.

1. 团体

是什么：建设一个团体意味着身边有关心你的那么一群人。

为什么：很多单身人士感到孤独以致影响了他们的生活质量。他们以为找个伴侣是满足情感需要的唯一方式。不。其实团体中的成员也能满足你的很多需求。你的需求越是得到满足，你就会变得越有魅力——并且越不需要一个伴侣。

怎么办：通过做志愿工作或者加入有兴趣的俱乐部。

2. A Life Rich in Pleasure

What it means: Such as being in nature, exercise or a good meal.

Why it matters: Many singles forego pleasure and self-care for their jobs or career. It's as if they themselves don't matter; only their accomplishments do.

What you can do: Add three luxurious, pleasurable things to your day. These don't have to be huge -- perhaps a 10-minute stroll, a few minutes reading a book, a cat nap, a body-care product that smells or feels good, a sit-down meal.

2. 充满乐趣的生活

是什么：比如享受大自然，运动或者吃一顿大餐。

为什么：很多单身人士为了工作和事业放弃了快乐和自我关怀。就好像他们自己并不重要，只有他们的成就才重要。

怎么办：每天为生活增添3样令自己放送并且愉快的事物。并不一定得是什么重大事物——或许只是10分钟的散步，几分钟的阅读，打个盹，味道很好的护肤品，坐下来吃顿饭等等。

3. A Life Lived Now

What it means: Many singles wait until they're in a relationship to live the kind of life they want and to do the things they love to do. Yet your life happens now -- today. It's not a dress rehearsal for when you have a relationship.

Why it matters: When you want to participate in life, but stop yourself because you are single, you stifle your spirit. On the other hand, living your life now also makes you very attractive!

What you can do: Figure out what things you haven't done because you've been waiting for a partner. Which gives you the most charge when you think about it? Do them now.

3. 活在当下

是什么：很多单身人士总是等待坠入爱河的那一天再去过自己想要的生活。可是你就活在当下，今天。现在的每一天并不是为以后日子的彩排。

为什么：当你想参与生活的时候，不要因为自己是单身就停止，不要让你的灵魂窒息。另一方面，活在当下会让你更有魅力！

怎么办：想想你因为等待伴侣的到来而错过的事情。哪一件让你在想起的瞬间整个人充满能量？现在就放手去做。