1. Meeting your new boss
Don’t say: “I’m available anytime you need me. Here’s my home number, my personal email, my cell, and I’ll be on vacation next week, so here’s how you can reach me at the cabin.”
Why it’s a problem: It seems like the right thing to do—to be helpful and available. But studies show that an “always on” mentality isn’t conducive to better productivity. Harvard Business School professor Leslie Perlow, in fact, asserts in her TED Talk that the practice can even ultimately damage an organization.
问题出现在哪:这看起来是一件正确的事情——既能提供帮助也能腾出时间。但有许多研究表明,那种‘随时待命’的心理状态无法有助于创造力的提升。同时实际上,哈佛商业学院的教授Leslie Perlow在TED演讲中声称这种实践方法实际上最终还会损害一家机构的利益。
Say instead: “Let’s figure out the best ways for us to communicate if we need to reach each other during an emergency.”

2. When referring to colleagues
Don’t say: “My boyfriend Pedro in IT just fixed my email, it’s working great now!”
Why it’s a problem: Of course it’s not a Don Draper–level offense: You, Pedro and everyone else knows that he’s not actually your boyfriend, but when you refer to him like that, you’re downgrading his professionalism, and your own.
问题出现在哪里:当然这不是唐·德雷柏级别的冒犯。你,Pedro还有其他人都知道他并不是你的男朋友,但当你这么称呼他的时候,你正在降低他的专业性,还有你自己的专业性。Say instead: “Pedro did such an amazing job fixing my email that I’m letting his boss know he’s a rock star.”