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migraines

compromise

How do we establish that? When you move into a new neighborhood, should you reach out to the neighbors? Or should they be reaching out to you? I think it can work either way, I mean, if they don't reach out to you, don't assume that they are being rude or unfriendly. They just might hold back because they think you're too busy, unpacking and settling in. If they don't make the first step, after a few days, go ahead and introduce yourself. Because I think once you are on a first name basis with your neighbors, it's much easier to combat problems later on, or maybe call them for a favor down the road when you are on vacation and you need them to water your plants. It's much easier when you know them personally. Yeah, neighbors can be really helpful but, of course they can also be annoying, for example, loud music? Loud music is one of those top complaints, and I think, for most reasonable people, they probably aren't even aware they are causing problems for their neighbors and I think if you bring it up to your neighbors' attention, they will be more than happy to fix it. But, you can take that “it is not you, it is me" approach; you can say something like, I'm kind of a really light sleeper, or I suffer from migraines, can you help me out by turning down the music during those evening hours, or early morning, or come up with a compromise that works for both of you...
我们应该如何建立呢？刚搬到新家，应该主动接触邻居们，还是等他们来找你呢？ 我认为都行。我是说，如果邻居没有来跟你接触，不要认为他们很无力，或者不友好。他们只是在犹豫，因为他们认为你可能正忙着整理家什，安定下来。如果他们没有迈出第一步，你可以过几天后，主动去介绍自己。 因为一旦你与邻居相处和睦，能够直呼其名，以后的问题就容易解决了。也许过一段时间之后，邻居还能给你帮个忙，当你在度假的时候，或者是给你的盆栽浇水。当你与他们有了交情，就更容易相处了。 是的，邻居能够给我们很多帮助。但是，邻居也能带来很多烦恼吧，比如，制造噪音？ 噪音是邻里相处间最大的问题。我觉得，对大多数通情达理的人来说，他们可能没意识到自己给邻居造成了困扰。如果你跟他们提出你的困扰，他们一定会乐意而为。但是，如果你采取“不是你的问题，是我的问题”的方式，比如我是个睡眠很浅的人，或者我有偏头痛，您能在清晨或者深夜把音量调低吗？或者想个双方都能接受的折衷的办法。