害怕失败所以什么都不敢做？7步帮你克服！

Evan Asano, CEO and founder: , answered the question “How can I overcome the fear of failure?” on Quora.

What is failure? The only true failure is the one you don’t learn from. Facebook’s moto is: Fail fast, fail forward. Facebook knows the biggest failure would be not evolving, not pushing boundaries and not finding ways to disrupt themselves. If Facebook isn’t evolving, building and taking risks, then they’re slowly dying. If Facebook relied on what worked for them 5 years ago, then they would be Yahoo, Twitter or Myspace instead of one of the world’s largest and most successful companies with a $365B market cap. In sales, there’s the aphorism, “every no is one step closer to a yes.” Failure often isn’t what you think it is.

What it is exactly you fear? We don’t all fear new things, taking risks, changing and growing for the same reasons. Fear of failure is driven because we imagine the worst or because we strive for perfection or because we desperately fear rejection. What is the worst that can happen? If we go out and start a business, we imagine that we’ll lose everything if we fail. Then what? Will you then not have friends and loved ones? Will you not have your family? Will you not have the same gumption and drive that compelled you to start a business in the first place? When you decide to move forward, you also make the decision to push through no matter what; and when you decide that, remarkable things happen.

Confidence comes from making a decision, making a commitment and sharing that pronouncement. The world responds and supports those who act and lead with confidence. No one is conspiring for your failure. When you take action with confidence and surety, the world will conspire to support you though. The right things will happen, the right circumstances and opportunities will present themselves.

Another cause of fear of failure is focusing on the enormity of the challenge. Look at a picture of Mt. Everest from Base Camp. It’s magnificent and imposing, and doesn’t look the least bit climbable. Add to that, the summit is racked by storms, -50 degree weather, and is utterly inhospitable. Yet hundreds of climbers summit every year. These climbers are most often not professional climbers or elite athletes, but ordinary hobbyists with a dream and a goal. And they all start the climb the same way, with a single step toward the summit. It’s sounds like cliche, but action becomes a habit. Small steps add up and soon you gather momentum and not long after that you’re unstoppable.

In big wave surfing, surfer paddle into waves the size of 5 story buildings. It’s impossible for any human not to fear these waves. To counter what can be a paralyzing fear, many of the most elite big wave surfers avoid looking at the impact zone where the wave crashes because it wouldn’t instantly cripple them with fear, and they would never paddle for one of the waves. You’ll have many fears in life; some you can stare down and charge and others who’s lair you should tip top around.

Take on challenges in other areas of life outside of where you seek to grow. Ever wonder why triathlons, mud runs and marathons are so popular? People want to push their boundaries and see what they’re capable of. You build will power and drive. When you succeed at large goals in one area, you start to see that you can apply the same skills and determination to accomplish goals in other areas.

Successful people seem fearless and extraordinary; but that’s just how they’re perceived, and it becomes the myth that we perpetuate. Being brave isn’t living without fear; it’s living with [en]fear, confronting it and taking action in spite of it.Fear is a very normal and inevitable part of being human, It’s a part of all of us. No one is truly fearless; they’ve just learned to embrace fear. In Games of Thrones when Robb Stark asks his father, “How can a man be brave when he’s afraid?” Ned Stark replies, “A man can brave only when he’s afraid.”