A mom of a recent graduate attended a college alumni career networking event with her daughter. She came to "help" her daughter (who looked appropriately mortified) find a job.
一位母亲带着她刚毕业的女儿一起参加了校友职业交流活动。这位妈妈是来帮女儿(她看起来似乎十分苦恼)找工作的。

A young man who had recently earned a PhD accepted a post-doctoral position in a city far from his hometown. He arrived to tour campus and search for housing with both parents in tow to approve the job offer and the community.
一位最近获得博士学位的年轻人在离家很远的城市找到了一份博士后研究员的工作。他来到这所旅游学院后,是和父母一起找到面试地点,然后也是在父母的陪同下,通过面试,最终找到了这份工作。

On Your Own 独立

I'm always surprised to hear stories like this, because one of the first rules of job searching is to do it on your own. When my 14 year old daughter interviewed for her first job, the interviewer asked if she wanted me to come in the room with her. She chose to go in by herself. That was a really good decision.
很奇怪总会听到这样这样的事情,因为找工作第一准则就是要靠自己。当我14的女儿参加她的第一次工作面试的时候,面试官询问她是否需要我陪着她一起进去。她选择了自己进去。那真是一个明智的选择。

On another bright note, I receive emails regularly from parents asking me what information they can give to their child to help them with a job search.
在另一方面,我经常受到父母的来信,询问怎样在子女找工作的时候帮助他们。

As a parent, you can play a helpful role in assisting your child search for jobs. However, even though it's well intentioned to try to help, sometimes your efforts can have a negative effect.
作为父母,在子女找工作中,你可以起到很有帮助的辅助作用。然而,虽然本意是想尽全力帮他们找到工作,但有时候你的帮忙会起到反作用。

Here's how to help your child, regardless of age, job search:
以下是几点在你(不管你年纪多大)的子女找工作时怎样帮助他们的技巧:

Suggest that your child visit their school's Guidance Office or College Career Office early to investigate career options, pursue job and internship opportunities, and to get career planning assistance.
建议你的子女访问他们学校的指导中心或大学生就业办公室,以得到职业生涯规划指导,并尽早地选择职业,找到工作,或尽早把握实习机会,

Network. Talk to your friends, your colleagues, and your relatives about your child's job search. It works - my first job was at the local grocery store, where my mom was a frequent customer. My stepson was hired by a family friend after meeting him at a birthday party.
交际网。将你的子女找工作的事情告诉你的朋友,同事以及亲戚等。这样很有效—我的第一份工作时在家乡的杂货店,而我妈妈就是此店的常客。我继子就是在自己的生日宴会上被我们家一位世交相中,而找到了工作。

Share resources. Talk to your son or daughter about what to wear on an interview, how to interview, and the polite gestures (like sending thank you notes) that will bring them a little bit closer to getting a job.
资源分享。告诉你的子女在面试时应该如何着装,该如何应付面试,以及必要的礼仪(比如发感谢信等),这样会让他们更容易找到工作。

Get paperwork ready in advance. Help your child compile the information he needs to write a resume or complete a job application. Proofread the finished product to make sure there are no typos or grammatical errors. Assist with the process to get working papers (it can be cumbersome) if they are needed.
提前准备好相关文件。 帮助你的子填写好简历或者职位申请书。帮他(她)校对,以确保没有语法及拼写错误。需要的话,帮忙准备好就业相关证件。

Assist with transportation. If your child can't drive, assist with coordinating transportation to interviews, and to and from work.
给予他们交通上的帮助。如果你的子女不能驾驶,载他们去面试,并开车接送他们上下班。

Let them do it on their own. I know it's hard. As I mentioned, I left my 14 year old to make her own first impression. I got the sense that many parents sat in, but my daughter's interviewer was impressed and my daughter got the volunteer position she was interested in.
让他们独立的完成自己的事情。我知道这很难。正如我所说的那样,我让14岁的女儿自己去完成她的第一份面试。我和大多数父母那样为她担心,着急,但是我女儿的面试结果非常好,她得到了她想要的志愿者工作。

Let them find their own path. Don't pressure your child to pursue a career that they don't want to have. They will work the hardest when they discover something they really want to do.
让他们找到自己的方向。不要逼你的子女去做一份他们不想做的工作。当他们真正想去从事某项工作时,他们会尽最大的努力去做好。

Push if necessary. You can encourage your child to start job searching and stress the importance of it, but don't overdo the financial support. They may be more motivated if they have to pay their own bills.
有必要的话适当的施压。你可以鼓励你的子女开始找工作,并告诉他们这有多重要,但是不要在经济上给予过多的支持。因为当他们要为自己买单的时候,他们会更有动力去工作。

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